“But, it’s what you blog and tweet about most. She probably felt like you were getting on your high horse.”
The funny thing about being a blogger is that I forget people are reading sometimes. Not that I forget that I’m sharing publicly or anything, I just forget that people are putting pieces together on the outside that I can’t see because I’m too inside my own thoughts and feelings and experiences.
My friend is right though, I do write about the same themes a lot – community, friendship, the Church, singleness. I think that happens to most writers. You find a passion and you sink your teeth into it and the words just kind of appear, because it’s what you’re thinking about all of the time, and often all that you’re thinking doesn’t make sense until you sit down and put the words on paper.
But, the reality is also that I write about what’s close to my heart. I write about my friends because I love them, and they’re tangible examples of God’s love, and I think everybody should have those kinds of people in their lives. I write about church because, as much as it frustrates me sometimes, I love the Church, and I think we can do better by each other than we are right now. I write about community because, I think, that’s where friendship and church blur together to create the place I’m living right now, and I love this place. And I write about being single probably because it’s my biggest point of wounding right now. I write about being single not because I love my singleness, although most days I do, but because I’ve been made to feel small in my community because I’m single, and I don’t think people meant that to happen, and I hope that by writing about it we can start to talk about how we can love each other better, regardless of ring status.
I don’t ever want to sound like I’m getting on my high horse, but I suppose when you’re a blogger, writer, speaker, or any kind of someone who puts their thoughts out there in a way for a people to interact with, you’re going to have high horse moments. We’re going to have those things that so drive us to communicate that we’re going to not always get the tone right, or we’re going to be too pointed, or…I don’t know…something. We’re just not always going to get it right. For this, I am terribly sorry.
But, I think that’s why we writers and communicators value so desperately the honest feedback of the people who are reading and listening. Please don’t stop. You are sharpening our thoughts, and challenging us, and making us better people and better writers. And I promise to listen, and interact with what you’re offering, and come down from my high horse. Or at least, I’ll try.
And I suppose really what I’m asking for is a little more grace between us, a little more space for understanding, a little more hope that we can figure out a way to love each other better.